My girlfriend is outspoken about equality BUT #feminism #mgtow #masculinity

My girlfriend is outspoken about equality, but wants me to be traditionally masculine in and out of bed and I hate it
My [22M] girlfriend [25F] is one of the most outspoken feminists I have ever met. She is strongly passionate about gender equality and I am in full agreement with her here. Except this seemingly does not extend to our relationship. She makes a point to say that we are equal partners in our relationship, but at the same time she expects me to play the traditionally masculine role against my will.
She wants me to always lead via planning everything we do, she wants me to financially provide for her, and my least favorite is that she always wants me to dominate her in bed. I have told her time and time again that I do not like dominating in bed, but it is something she seemingly requires to get off she cannot have sex without the power exchange. Honestly, all I want is just to have an equal relationship without any power exchange in or out of bed. Do you think this is a fundamental incompatibility?
Yep, time to move on.
It's funny because it sounds like her personality will attract the exact opposite of what she actually wants.
You two don't sound very compatible. I don't think that her feminist beliefs and sexual proclivities are necessarily opposed, but the latter is clearly not what you want out of sex, and if this is a major source of conflict then I think you two need have a serious discussion with regards to the direction of this relationship.
Yeah you’re incompatible inside and outside of the bedroom. Time to move on
If you are this unhappy then leave her. These are her standards for a relationship, if you don’t like them you have to find someone that fits you
So. She wants what she wants. And it’s not what you want. Date someone who wants what YOU want
Yes. Sounds like a fundamental incompatibility in and out of the bedroom. Don't you think so already? Where IS the compatibility shown through her actions?
Does she have a job? If yes then put your foot down now on the money issue. Stop being her sugar daddy. She can pay for herself.
Modern woman looking for a traditional man. Meme as old as time. Seen it, experienced it.
Equality doesn't mean that you can't divide tasks or have certain roles in the relationship. I'm sure she takes some sort of responsibility in the relationship, right? But if it doesn't feel right to you, or it's not what you are looking for, that just means you're incompatible. Did you talk to her about it? You may be able to find a compromise.
Ahh the double standard feminist. I see. Tell her that you respect her gender equality but that you also want gender equality in the relationship, if thats what you are looking for. Otherwise I would recommend to leave her
The most outspoken feminists I knew in college in my 20's all married high earning guys and became stay at home moms. Women can hold an infinite number of contradictory ideas in their head at the same time.
She is allowed to be an advocate but also have her own preferences as well. It just sounds like you guys aren't compatible. Think about it this way. By you not wanting her to have those preferences toward you, you are also, In a sense saying you have preferences to what kind of gf you want. You guys just need to find who is best for yourselves.
When it comes to sex, your views and hers may change over time. But in the meantime, if she's not willing to share different ways and methods, demanding her way only, that is a very immature and selfish way to sustain a relationship.
Are you a better person in this relationship? If you answer no, break it off.
Leave asap those type of feminist are fake and u will never find the right mix of traditional and equality in this relationship
She’s one of THOSE “feminists”. Good luck lol
Some people call that hypocritical.
I find that now-a-days, the people who are the most outspoken about a topic tend to be the biggest hypocrites. Not all of them, but a good amount it seems.
Welp, definitely no deep seated issues there
Brainwashed to believe in something she doesn't personally believe in....
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