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Every relationship is unique, but there can be some qualities and goals that healthy relationships may tend to talk, like wanting to trust each other, have things in common, and have common expectations around the future, for example. If you are interested in cultivating a stronger and healthier relationship, consider the following goals strong couples may have in common. Later, we’ll also offer a few tips for how to strengthen your relationship.Show more

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Common Goals Of Healthy Relationships
Relationship goals can vary widely from one couple to the next, but below are a few goals that may be common in healthy relationships.

They Aim To Love Each Other Unconditionally
Strong couples often aim to love each other unconditionally. This means supporting each other through thick and thin, good times and bad. When things get hard, someone makes a mistake, or both people are going through a tough time, the love is still there. In a healthy relationship, it often feels clear that your love for each other is strong and unwavering.

Tips For Developing This:

Consider your partner’s feelings and perspective.

Try to love your partner for who they are, rather than trying to change them into someone they are not.

Communicate your hopes and dreams to each other.

If you’re struggling to love your partner unconditionally, try putting yourself in their shoes. Think of how your words and decisions have an impact on them. Take the time to communicate with each other about your hopes and dreams so you stay on the same page. These talks can also be a great way to reassure each other that your goals can be achieved together.

They Want To Trust Each Other
Trust is often a big goal in healthy relationships. Couples often have parts of their lives that are separate from each other, like work, hobbies, and spending time with friends, so it’s important that couples can trust each other, especially when they’re not together. Jealousy can tear a relationship apart, so building trust is often key.

Tips For Developing This:

Avoid trying to control your significant other.

If jealousy or insecurity come up, talk about it and work through it before it becomes a problem.

Be open and honest with each other.

If you and your partner have established trust between you, try not to let negative thoughts or unsubstantiated worries poison your relationship. Be open with each other as soon as any doubts come to mind and try to resolve them before they become a bigger issue. Give each other space when it’s needed.

They Have Things In Common
Many couples these days like to have at least a few things in common. These could be values, interests, hobbies, and more. It’s often helpful to have some things in common with your partner. This way, there are at least a few things you enjoy doing together, and you can spend time together doing something you both like. That said, it is possible to build a relationship with someone you have only a little in common with, too.

Tips For Developing This:

Try to consistently learn new things about each other.

Try new things together to discover more interests.

Plan dates and quality time around common interests.

One good way to build a strong relationship is to never assume you know your partner completely, and to stay open to learning new things about them. People change. By accepting that, you can remain open to learning new things about each other. You can grow together when you celebrate the things that connect you to your partner and incorporate them into your plans.

But They Want To Have Their Own Things, Too
In addition to having some things in common, it’s also important for many couples to have things that are their own. For example, these could be work interests, hobbies, and time spent with friends. Being in a close-knit relationship can be great, but it’s also healthy for each partner to have their own individual identity. Carving out this independence can also keep you from feeling like you’re trapped in your relationship. You might also find that spending some time apart also gives you the chance to miss each other and may allow you both to appreciate the time you spend together more.

Tips For Developing This:

Encourage each other to pursue separate passions and interests.

Try to make separate plans with friends.

Accept and support the parts of your partner’s life that are not yours.

While time together as a couple is important, it’s also important to carve out time for each person’s own interests, so each person is able to retain their own identity and independence, rather than veering into co-dependency. The goal can be to find a balance between spending time together and doing things solo, with the things that you do apart making you happy and encouraging your sense of self.

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