Premium Only Content
What Is Transactional and Attitudinal Forgiveness?
Transactional forgiveness can only happen if a person is asking: the person asks, and you grant it. I do not see how you can dispense forgiveness willy-nilly, as that is inconsistent with the gospel: "If we confess, ask, seek forgiveness, then we receive forgiveness." It seems wrongheaded to "extend it" when nobody or anyone is asking.
Attitudinal forgiveness is a "heart of forgiveness." Transactional forgiveness cleans up the mess because both folks what to clean it up; they are willing and active participants; attitudinal forgiveness keeps the victim from being incarcerated for what the offender did to them and is not dependent on any action from the offender.
There are several reasons for attitudinal forgiveness:
1. When the offender is no longer alive, i.e., I cannot transact forgiveness from my drunk daddy because he died before I was a Christian. Still, I didn't want to be incarcerated by his meanness, so I pleaded with God to give me a heart of forgiveness.
2. When the offender is alive but unwilling to repent, I don't want to be in bondage to their sin though they choose to stay in bondage. Thus, I must have a heart of forgiveness toward them.
3. When it's impossible to pursue forgiveness, i.e., asking a sexually violated person to meet with the violator. I would not set up that meeting because it's unwise and careless to insist the victim meet with the victimizer.
Thus, there are times when the offended needs to seek freedom attitudinally despite the offender's negative response, resistance, or reconciliation. However, when the offender does want forgiveness (truly genuine), they can transact it.
Life Over Coffee exists to bring hope and help for you and others by creating resources that spark conversations for transformation.
Helpful Links
Would you please help keep our resources free by donating here: https://lifeovercoffee.com/donate/
Learn more about our training here: https://lifeovercoffee.com/mastermind-program-overview/
Connect with Us:
Website: https://bit.ly/3yNZc76
Facebook: https://bit.ly/3wGkWQp
Instagram: http://bit.ly/2He98il
Twitter: https://bit.ly/2SF1BQE
Rumble: https://bit.ly/3CotmPt
Pinterest: https://bit.ly/3IcKGuE
YouTube: https://bit.ly/3i0UmND
-
18:14
Life Over Coffee
6 days agoSex for a Woman, According to a Man
181 -
1:58:10
Robert Gouveia
13 hours agoMatt Gaetz REJECTS Report, Sues Committee; Luigi Fan Club Arrives; Biden Commutes; Festivus Waste
157K103 -
58:10
Kimberly Guilfoyle
15 hours agoAmerica is Back & The Future is Bright: A Year in Review | Ep. 183
92.2K57 -
3:03:27
vivafrei
20 hours agoEp. 242: Barnes is BACK AGAIN! Trump, Fani, J6, RFK, Chip Roy, USS Liberty AND MORE! Viva & Barnes
173K192 -
8:09:50
Dr Disrespect
18 hours ago🔴LIVE - DR DISRESPECT - MARVEL RIVALS - GOLD VANGUARD
203K33 -
1:15:00
Awaken With JP
17 hours agoMerry Christmas NOT Happy Holidays! Special - LIES Ep 71
236K191 -
1:42:21
The Quartering
18 hours agoTrump To INVADE Mexico, Take Back Panama Canal Too! NYC Human Torch & Matt Gaetz Report Drops!
177K110 -
2:23:15
Nerdrotic
18 hours ago $14.60 earnedA Very Merry Christmas | FNT Square Up - Nerdrotic Nooner 453
133K13 -
1:14:05
Tucker Carlson
18 hours ago“I’ll Win With or Without You,” Teamsters Union President Reveals Kamala Harris’s Famous Last Words
233K381 -
1:58:31
The Dilley Show
18 hours ago $36.92 earnedTrump Conquering Western Hemisphere? w/Author Brenden Dilley 12/23/2024
172K50