Why Can’t I Control Myself and My Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)

Urges and Impulses of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)
Complex Borderline Personality Disorder: How Coexisting Conditions Affect Your BPD and How You Can Gain Emotional Balance. Available at:
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Many individuals with BPD struggle with controlling their impulses. These impulsive behaviors are often destructive to themselves, others, relationships, and many aspects of life. Heck, impulsivity is even a criterion for BPD it’s so common in those with the disorder. In this video we’re going to examine what’s behind your impulsive behavior…your urges. These are the critical components for impulse control. In this video, after we unpack your urges and impulses, I’m going to give you a great tip to help you control your impulsive behavior, so sit tight and let’s get into it.
An urge is a desire or craving. A sensation inside you that grows. The urge can be to text a friend, yell at your significant other, or curse out your boss or mom.

These impulsive behavior can become habitual and create a negative feedback loop (see picture below) that keeps playing out. Here’s how it goes, you get an urge that intensifies as your desire builds. Your BPD starts to play with your mind; you feel fear, doubt, self-contempt, abandonment, rejection, and more. The urge becomes so great that you can’t hold it, your fire burns too hot, and then you act out in an impulsive way leading to the negative consequences of your behavior. Then the negative consequences kick-in, the pain you caused yourself or others, leads to self-attack which then causes you to feel less than and it gets perpetuated again and again as the cycle continues.

Daniel J. Fox, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist in Texas, international speaker, and a multi-award winning author. He has been specializing in the treatment and assessment of individuals with personality disorders for over 15 years in the state and federal prison system, universities, and in private practice. His specialty areas include personality disorders, ethics, burnout prevention, and emotional intelligence.

He has published several articles in these areas and is the author of:

Complex Borderline Personality Disorder: How Coexisting Conditions Affect Your BPD and How You Can Gain Emotional Balance. Available at:
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Antisocial, Narcissistic, and Borderline Personality Disorders: A New Conceptualization of Development, Reinforcement, Expression, and Treatment. Available at: https://tinyurl.com/2anv8dww

The Borderline Personality Disorder Workbook: An Integrative Program to Understand and Manage Your BPD. Available at: https://goo.gl/LQEgy1

Antisocial, Borderline, Narcissistic and Histrionic Workbook: Treatment Strategies for Cluster B Personality Disorders (IPBA Benjamin Franklin Gold Award Winner): https://goo.gl/BLRkFy

Narcissistic Personality Disorder Toolbox: 55 Practical Treatment Techniques for Clients, Their Parents & Their Children (IPBA Benjamin Franklin Silver Award Winner):: https://goo.gl/sZYhym

The Clinician’s Guide to Diagnosis and Treatment of Personality Disorders: https://goo.gl/ZAVe9v

Dr. Fox has given numerous workshops and seminars on ethics and personality disorders, personality disorders and crime, treatment solutions for treating clients along the antisocial, borderline, narcissistic, and histrionic personality spectrum, emotional intelligence, managing mental health within the prison system, and others. Dr. Fox maintains a website of various treatment interventions focused on working with and attenuating the symptomatology related to individuals along the antisocial, borderline, narcissistic, and histrionic personality spectrum (www.drdfox.com).

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