Intimacy Issues: Part 2 of Why we attract the "wrong for us" people

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This is part 2 of why we attract into our lives the “wrong for us” people. In part 1, I talked about The Savior Trauma Trigger. Today, I share about finding the trauma triggers underlying fear of intimacy & closeness.

People who have his fear long for intimacy & closeness but will often push others away or even sabotage their relationships.

This fear can be rooted in trauma around neglect or abuse as a child. In this case, you may find when you do the Root Trauma Release work that you have an underlying fear of abandonment or loss. The definition of trauma is “a deeply distressing or disturbing experience”. This fear can also be rooted if you just did not feel safe, happy, validated, etc. around your caregiver(s).

This pattern does often to hand in hand with the Savior Trauma Trigger. You will be more attracted to people that remind you of your caregivers & you may be more attracted to emotionally unavailable people.

Intimacy refers to the ability to genuinely share your true self with another person and relates to the experience of closeness & connection.

A way to start identifying the trauma triggers underlying this fear is to remember when you have felt a negative reaction to someone wanting to be close to you or spend time work you. The reaction will be different depending on the type of trauma you experienced. You could feel claustrophobic, frustrated, annoyed, or even angry.

When you are able to remember this feeling, breathe into the body and see where this feeling is in your body. This is where your traumatic memories are stored. If you have multiple areas in the body triggered, first focus on the area that feels the strongest. Do Root Trauma Release on that area. Repeat on the other areas.

Note: I have seen this fear even be triggered by friends, pets, & children. I have used these as opportunities to help my clients heal this fear as well.

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