If you were in a relationship with someone and they are asexual, what would your reaction be?

1 year ago
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Dear non-asexual people: if you were in a relationship with someone and they sat you down and said they are asexual, what would your reaction be?
I have never heard the tearm before. I am 60 and never been physical with anyone. Infact I watch porn and it dose nothing for me. I am 60 now and never even kissed a woman or man or been in a relationship. I always thought I was weird so I stayed away from dating. This helps me to understand how I feel in a big way.
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I've been on a date with an asexual guy. He told me 1 hour into the date. I had nothing but respect for straight up telling me. I said I want sex to be a part of a relationship, he respected my choice and we had a great date. We were friends for long after that
This actually happened to me. He was so much fun, that sex ultimately did not matter. We had 8 years together before he went I search of new adventures, but we stayed friends until his death. I stil miss him.
Wish them well, find someone who shares my interests.
It would depend on if it was a new realization to them or something they had lied about. If it was a new realization I would be supportive and loving. Sex matters less and less as I age so I would certainly try to keep an intimate relationship while respecting their authentic self. If they had lied by not disclosing I would be out.
I would ask them what asexual means.
I’m not asexual, but for medical reasons I’m not able to have penetrating intercourse. People don’t decide who they are and I wouldn’t judge a relationship just on one thing.
It might be shallow, but intimacy in bed is something I enjoy a lot, not being able to do that would be a big deal breaker. Even if they gave me permission to play with others, not being able to do that stuff with my partner would be sad for me. I would most likely break off the relationship, but would still probably enjoy being good friends :)
This kinds of posts and comments are exactly what made me realize I am in the asexual spectrum, because the thought of never having sex again but still being with the woman I love is absolutely ok for me.
“Nice. I’ve always wondered if I was too.”
I'm not asexual but I'm not a very sexual person. I can do just fine with my vibrator and my hand. On the other hand, I crave physical intimacy in the form of cuddles and closeness and the occasional prolonged makeout sesh... so yeah. That's my non-answer.

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