Why are black men labeled Bad Fathers?

There's an age-old saying that has been at the center of many conversations and arguments, “Stereotypes make for easy decisions.” It is often used as a retort in response to social ignorance or prejudice. But how far should stereotypes go before they should be labeled just that: STEREOTYPES.

Studies show that African-American fathers spend more time with their children compared to any other race. So why do they still get labeled and no one complains about it? Stereotypes do make for easy decisions. They allow us to compartmentalize people and ideas into categories that are easier to understand, but at what cost? Stereotypes aren’t always true, especially when it comes to black fathers. The stereotype of the absent black father is a myth, but our society continues to perpetuate it every time we allow it. The truth is that African-American fathers are more involved in their children’s lives than any other race. A study by the National Fatherhood Initiative found that 70% of African-American fathers read to their children at least three times a week compared with 60% of white fathers who did so. Another study by the Pew Research Center found that black fathers spend more hours per week with their children than any other race. Yet, we continue to use stereotypes like “deadbeat dads” and “missing in action” as reasons why African-American men are not fit for fatherhood.

My hope is that this blog encourages black women to rethink the stigma attached to black fathers who are labeled bad dads by people who don't know them. I believe we all can change our perspective of someone once we are able to see their positive attributes. For every negative attribute you have, there is also a positive. I encourage woman who have been hurt by men to open your heart to other men and let him try and show you what he's got inside of him. Show the father that his child deserves his attention and that you want to partner up with him in raising their child