Is it ok for a woman to have the final say where her male partner finishes?

Is it ok for a woman to have the final say where her male partner finishes?

I had a situation in my last serious relationship that really bothered me. I never wanted to ask anyone irl about it so thought I’d ask here.

My now ex fiancé and I had been having unprotected sex for about a month, because we were open to having a baby. One night, I asked him not to finish in me because we were getting ready to go out and I didn’t want the mess. He did, on purpose. And then he said, “it’s my decision, not yours.”

Is that common or uncommon? I felt really violated and tbh, it hastened the downfall of our relationship. I would have understood if he got caught up in the moment and didn’t pull out in time, but it felt like he was asserting his dominance over me. Especially in context of some other things going on. Then I felt like I might have been overreacting?

Edit: Wow. I didn’t expect so many answers or that folks would feel so strongly. Thanks for chiming in. Also, one of the reasons I wasn’t sure if it was a violation is how common it has been to hear friends discuss a guy finishing on her face when she’d said not to, or initiating anal when she said she didn’t like it. Something to ponder…

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