Breaking the Trauma Bonds, One Link at a Time

Trauma Bonding occurs when a there is a one sided power balance in a relationship that is exploited through both positive and negative reinforcement. This can create an emotional but dysfunctional attachment that occurs in the presence of danger, shame or exploitation.

It is a form of psychological and emotional abuse that normally occurs in coercive relationships. In this video Darren Magee discusses the difficulties of having been trauma bonded and some of the obstacles to recovery, but also looks at some ideas that can help on the path to freedom.

0:00 Intro
0:38 What a Trauma Bond is
1:20 The affects of being Trauma Bonded
2:18 Educate yourself
3:49 Don't go looking for them to 'fix you'
5:24 Stop blaming and punishing yourself
6:27 Learn to self sooth
6:48 Recognise you are grieving
8:05 Build supportive relationships with others and utilise your support network

Other videos on this topic you might find interesting:

The Stages of Trauma Bonding
https://youtu.be/W2KyP8mmae0

Six Signs of Being Trauma Bonded
https://youtu.be/cDCV9jYvfqs

Further information for support can be found below:
https://www.gov.uk/guidance/domestic-abuse-how-to-get-help
https://belfastwomensaid.org.uk/
https://mensallianceni.co.uk/

Please feel free to suggest any topics you might like me to cover in future videos.

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