Strippers and Porn - should wives object?

Should a wife object or be offended by her husband going to a strip club or watching porn? Many people in culture would label a woman as "crazy" "jealous" and "controlling" if she would object to her husband going to a strip club or watching porn. But I feel sorry for these women who label the rest of us in this way. When a husband watches strippers or porn he is lusting after another woman. Jesus says that when a man looks at a woman with lust he has committed adultery with her in his heart. So God has given us an objective standard that it is sinful for men to lust after women who are not his wife. Why do so many women approve of her husband lusting after other women? I believe it's because she doesn't want to be labeled as crazy. She prefers to be seen as a "cool wife" in his eyes and with unbelieving husbands that required her to approve of his sin.