How do we Increase Our Living? – Being Dad with Phil Lower, September 15, 2022

Biologist define a living thing as “an entity that makes autonomous decisions.” Decisions are made in Time and carried out across Time.

Time is the only currency we constantly spend, we can never recover, and we cannot make more of.

Therefore, the Present Moment is the only place where we can solve our problems and make good decisions.

Giving yourself life is the same as enjoying life more because you are experiencing more life.

Remember the Tortoise represents constructive decisions, the Hare represents impulsive, destructive decisions, and the Rat represents, indecision, anger, and anxiety.

If you’re on autopilot and not actively making decisions, you are a little less alive than when you are experiencing life and making good decisions.

Now, we are only live in the Present. The Past is behind us. Can we make decisions in the Past? No. The Future has yet to be written. Can we make decisions in the Future? No.

One important benefit of the Past is that it gives us the experience of “Probability” so we can improve our decision making. “Those who do not learn from history are doomed to repeat it.”

We can only make decisions right here, right now. You can also only use your 5 senses in the Present. You may have changed a poopy diaper, but odor is right then and there and it is not sitting in front of you while you’re listening to this podcast.

Lastly, Intimacy and relationships all connect right now in the Present. You can’t build rapport with a new client in the Past, and the Future hasn’t arrived yet.

Now we started Chef Dad Chef Kid to help families build that enduring bond between Dad and their kids to strengthen families.

Sitting down and having a meal together is one of the few things that brings everything together. We are sitting and spending time together right now. We are engaging our senses of sight, touch, taste, smell, and hearing. And, we have consciously decided to do it together in the Present moment.

If you want to give yourself more “life” and help your kids learn to give themselves.

One way to do this is to learn to pray or meditate. Yes, distractions will come and that will help you to learn to notice them and then continue focusing on the present. Distractions are typically from your Past or regarding your Future.

Decisions can only be made in the Present.

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