Object Relations: Fear Of Success Pt. 3

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It is fortunate when people learn about mimetic rivalry and are able to adjust their lives accordingly, but there are many who will not learn this and bound into every conflict, and these conflicts can start early in childhood and pathology can develop before they enter the workforce. Everything is just an empty search for approval from others for the objects that are chosen. When people look at work as only a means to an end, motivation saps and it becomes robotic. One of the best psychoanalysts that understood this problem well was Heinz Kohut who was in the lineage of Ego Psychology. Ideally employers provide boundaries to work within, but many people have grown up in families where everything is motivated by parents, and eventually authority figures in the world of work. To not be able to create personal goals to fulfill means no fulfillment. One just looks for cues from authority figures, and like a slave, one's emotions are tied to the criticisms of others. Attention is an unreliable source of energy.

Resources:

The Analysis of The Self - Heinz Kohut: https://www.isbns.net/isbn/9780226450124/

How Does Analysis Cure? - Heinz Kohut: https://www.isbns.net/isbn/9780226006000/

The Search For The Self - Heinz Kohut: Volume 1: https://www.isbns.net/isbn/9780367328702/ Volume 2: https://www.isbns.net/isbn/9781855758742/ Volume 3: https://www.isbns.net/isbn/9780367328733/ Volume 4: https://www.isbns.net/isbn/9780429907890/

Aggressivity, Narcissism, and Self-Destructiveness in the Psychotherapeutic Relationship - Otto Kernberg: https://www.isbns.net/isbn/9780300101805/

Narcissistic Supply - Freud and Beyond: https://rumble.com/v1gveop-narcissistic-supply-freud-and-beyond-wnaad.html

The Ego and the Id - Sigmund Freud: https://youtu.be/Le_jw0YgTwo

Treatment of Narcissistic Personality Disorder: https://youtu.be/a5rk8PrA1sY

How to motivate yourself - Freud and Beyond: https://rumble.com/v1gv3zl-how-to-motivate-yourself-freud-and-beyond.html

Beyond the Pleasure Principle - Freud & Beyond - War Pt. (2/3): https://youtu.be/sU2cZriJZT0

The Psychopathology of Everyday Life - Sigmund Freud: https://youtu.be/oIc_h2tub5M

Otto Rank Playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLrNBLR4djB7GEFYv3W5GzYp_DuH0WOsOO

Cult Psychology: https://youtu.be/ywWQLOar5Bo

Case Studies: Dora and Freud: https://rumble.com/v1gu2dt-case-studies-dora-and-freud.html

Saul Alinsky "I'd Organize Hell": https://www.openculture.com/2017/02/13-rules-for-radicals.html