Relationship: Maybe what your mom told you was wrong based on Cognitive Dissonance

Sarah Dawn Moore:
Feminists aren't gonna like me for this one. But this was so good that I couldn't paraphrase it. I have to read it directly from the book. Never depend on a man. Of all the messages Your generation has adopted. The most egregious is the one many of your mothers passed on. Never depend on a man. The woman who pounded this home did so for one reason, because their own relationships with men, either their fathers or their husbands sometimes both are fraught with emotional turmoil. When this happens, feminism becomes a convenient way to stay mad at the entire male population. Sadly, many mothers then pass this damaging mindset onto their daughters. And here's what you need to ask yourself. Was your mother truly a victim of her circumstance? Or was her father or her husband, your grandfather or your father really a bad guy? That's certainly possible. But if your mother's marriage to your father failed, it's just as possible your mother didn't do her part to create a strong marriage. And if she was at heart and unhappy woman, it's also just as possible that her life plans got derailed because of poor choices that she made along the way. How you sort all this out is crucial because it will pick your mother's advice and contexts. You may determine, for example, that she's not a happy woman, or that she's a victim oriented by nature. If that's the case, I'm afraid her advice isn't going to help you.