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How To Find Love – 10 Tips
When it comes to finding a man for a relationship – or to marry – most women want to know how to find love in today’s dating world.

Sometimes it seems like the whole world is completely focused on getting a relationship with someone. Love is hard enough without us getting obsessive about finding a partner. But I’m here to help you with some tips for finding love.

First of all, I want to shoot down some of these –

Myths About Finding Love

Myth #1: You have to use online dating to find the right person for a relationship…

No, you don’t have to use an online dating site at all, if you don’t want to. This includes Tinder, Bumble, or a ton of the other popular ways people try to find a relationship or find love online.

I have been taking a survey of my readers for several years now, and I consistently get very raw, negative feedback about most people’s experience with online dating.

Sketchy guys/women
Liars/exaggerations in profiles
Looking for money
Married guys looking for hookups, not love
I think this is because there are a lot of potential issues with online dating – AND there are also a lot of opportunities if someone learns how to use it correctly to find love.

But you certainly do not HAVE to use it for dating if you don’t want to.

Myth #2: Stop looking for love – it will find you!

Another variation of this relationship myth is: “If it’s meant to be, love will happen for you!”

Ugh. This myth always got under my skin. I mean, we all know that it’s hard enough dating or finding a relationship when you’re TRYING.

So how could it be better to stop trying?

Well, as this theory goes, the harder people try, the more they “force” the energy of the universe – which the universe resists.

What this love myth is really trying to say is:

“If you’re a person who’s focused hard on finding someone or meeting people for a relationship, you’ll end up pushing them away…”

While there is some truth to that, the reality is that you DO have to look for the person you want if you want a romantic partner in your life.

Recent discoveries in psychology have shown us that if you keep a desire in your mind, you’re more likely to discover ways to fulfill it. (Thank you to The Secret for hitting us over the head with that one.)

In reality, people tend to get what they focus on getting. If it’s love you want to find, then keep your eyes opened for love. Just don’t get too obsessive about it.

Myth #3: Opposites Attract! (NOT)

This one has been around for a very long time – the idea that love happens so quickly between a person and someone else who is not like them.

There’s a psychology of why this “opposites attract” happens. But you only need to know that it happens because you’re actually just irritated at the failure of your last relationship – where he was compatible and so much like you.

Or you were just blinded by scorching sexual chemistry. Hey, it happens.

But the reality is that you’ll have much more success in dating a guy that’s more like you than unlike you.

Seek the bricks of compatibility FIRST, and then make sure chemistry is there to cement them together.

Okay, now we need to get into the ways for –

How To Find Love

If you want love in a healthy relationship and avoid the issues most people have in their relationships, you need to know that there are ways for how to find that love.

Here are just a few tips to get you moving –

How To Find the Right Person – Tip #1: Know What You Want FIRST

About 98% of the people I meet – even the ones I met in my seminars – didn’t have a list of what they wanted in a partner. Sure, they had a vague idea, but they really didn’t have a clear picture of how they’d know if they were to find love.

Take the next 5 minutes you would watch a pointless video on youtube to start a list of what you want in a mate…

A simple list of 10 must-haves, and maybe 10 must-nots, is all it takes.

Then, as you date and get more experience, you know what worked and what didn’t work for you, and you can update your list.

Love Tip #2: Get Over Rejection – FAST!

KNOW THIS: No one likes rejection.

Not even the most seasoned sales person wants to be rejected – or enjoys it. So you gotta learn how to...

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How To Find Love
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