how to support a survivor of abuse

It's been a busy morning! Third short video... How to support a #survivorofabuse ??Show more

This applies wether it be CSA, physical, emotional, psychological or whatever else....

YES unfortunately there are people (narcisisists / dark triad personality types) who specialise in making false allegations and seek to destroy genuine victims...

AND there are many, MANY genuine victims out there. #CSA is a plague that infects our species that is far more widespread a problem than most know or are willing to admit.

How to support?

1/ hold the person disclosing in positive regard

2/ BELIEVE them... (Most normal people can not understand the courage it normally takes to speak out, the more severe the abuse - the harder it is to speak out.)

3/ keep your own emotions and nervous system grounded... Yes genuine emotional response can be helpful.. BUT you have been trusted to be disclosed to AND have a duty to keep your sh1t together for now.

4/ educate yourself on the form of abuse being disclosed so you are educated on the topic.

Palming the victim off to a therapist ASAP and washing your hands of them is not a proper human repsonse... And yes ofc - you are probably not a trained therpaist and should not try to be.

Of you turn away because you find it too upsetting, or that it shakes your precious world view uncomfortably - well your silence and apathy makes you complicit in such abuse...

To have other good people around us, helps one to heal and to then thrive....

Be that man that can hold such things, that can know what to do should you be trusted with a disclosure of abuse.

An excellent blog should someone disclose to you they have suffered #CSA

https://csasurvivors.home.blog/2020/01/10/the-false-memory-myth-memory-repression/

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