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Dating a Man With Kids - What You MUST Know FIRST
By: Carlos Cavallo

It's possible that dating a man with kids is one of the most complicated things to deal with in a relationship. But it can also be one of the most gratifying and amazing accomplishments.

There's a lot to be interested in. After all if you don't have kids of your own, you might like the idea of taking on the nurturing maternal role, even if it's not for your own children.

And, knowing that he's made this kind of commitment himself is also a big plus. It shows that he's capable of devoting himself to family, the way you need to know he will.

However, you do need to know all the details about it so you can make a good decision.

Is Dating A Man With A Child Worth It?
A lot of this will depend on whether or not you're used to having kids around. If you have your own kids, you'll probably already know the answer to this.

If you don't have kids of your own, you are going to have to make some adjustments. It's a big deal to take on kids that are not your own.

There's no way anybody can tell you whether it's worth it or not. The best they can tell you is what to be aware of going into this kind of relationship.

Pros & Cons Of Dating A Man With Kids

The PROS:
If he’s looking for a relationship, he’s not going to waste time or energy
He’s going to have an open heart if he’s open to loving his child
He’s not going to be in a hurry to get married or rush the romance
He’s going to understand commitment on a very deep level

The CONS:
His life is going to be chaotic, and you’re going to have to be really flexible
You’re going to have to figure out your place along the way - and fit in a way that helps the kids first, him second, and sometimes you last
You gotta deal with his ex - so hopefully they’re on good terms
You’re going to have to work around a time schedule (and dating schedule) that won’t be carefree - it can be hectic
There might be many more that you will figure out on your own, given your situation.

Here are a few of the reasons why you would want to immediately walk away from a relationship with a man with kids:

You don’t want kids (this is an IMMEDIATE deal-breaker and you should walk away now)
You’re not ready to share the parenting with another woman (his ex)
You’re either too young for kids or too old for more kids (basically you don’t want kids yet)
He’s not up-front and honest about his parental situation and role
He doesn’t seem to be able to balance that dad role with making you happy and being a good man for you
If you want biological children of your own in addition to the kids he has, he has to be on board with that.
(This might sound strange, but you should make sure he hasn't had a vasectomy. A lot of guys get them when they're done with making babies, but he didn't realize the marriage wouldn't last.)
I would think most of those reasons make sense to you if you think about them.

Is there baggage with a relationship like this?
Of course there are complications. I have been a man dating several single moms in the past, and I can completely relate to the complication of this situation.

It may not be easy, but nothing worth doing in life will be easy - as you know.

You also have to realize there are plenty of people ready and willing to give you advice. Some of it's good, but some of it is bad. Like, really bad.

And the bad advice could easily wreck your relationship! So you need to know the truth.

For example, one of the most emotionally charged objections goes like this:

“You don't want to raise another person's kids!”

This particular objection depends on your perspective. If you are a woman who could not have children for some reason, or you wanted to add more children to your family, you might adopt a child.

Technically, this would be raising another person's kids. And this would be a good thing - especially if it were

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Carlos Cavallo
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Dating A Man With Kids
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