Formerly Homicidal Teen Speaks Out On Mass Shootings || Ep 03

00:00 Music and Setting up Stream
06:15 START OF SHOW
06:30 Recap of episodes 1-2
06:45 Bully or Psychopath?
08:00 There were signs that the shooter was "that way"
10:30 Documentation of Parkland mass shooter / in retrospect my rage was in people's way
11:30 Bradybunch Family
13:00 Those people became dead to me
13:30 They depersonalized themselves
14:00 From "I'm going to save him" to complete jadedness
15:00 Leaving me alone = avoidance / They just ignored me
16:00 Don't name the dog - we goin' eat it / No bond = no recognition
17:00 My high school was by no means a prep school
18:00 Depersonalization made it easy to think of dark thoughts
19:00 suffered from halation -- not a thought but one's responsibility
20:00 What's at the bottom? Who do we blame? Texas police! The cops waited too long
21:00 Aftermath -- the cops messed up
22:00 Money and polices -- policy makers turn towards these for answers
23:00 John Gottman: 4 Horsemen
24:00 Sabotage without knowing
25:00 Dr. Oz, Daytime TV, Oprah, and Dr. Phil
26:00 Possessed by criminal intent and self acting it out
27:00 Robbery vs. armed robbery
28:00 policy, lawmakers, and cops
29:00 Sean rant
30:00 Tucker Carlson has on psychoanalyst / psychologist... What if?
Policy = banning things
31:00 But criminals DON'T follow the law
32:00 People who cannot provide for themselves / living out the victim story
33:00 He had his reasons - mothers peaks out after her son murders victims at school
34:00 Victims are allergic to accountability / no the same logic
35:00 Victimized vs. Victimhood
36:00 Become a mountain climber "one step at a time"
37:00 When they do nothing, they float, vice versa you just have to get over it
38:00 Inner critique antagonizing me
39:00 Running from the Agents in the Matrix
40:00 Trinity or Morpheus
41:00 Everything is a digital projection of Neo's mind
42:00 The way I was taught to free my mind
43:00 Victimhood is holding me back
**44:00 How to free oneself from the matrix**
45:00 32 year-old suffering from low self esteem
46:00 Shrink - all he did was listen
47:00 Not just consuming wisdom online
48:00 Online is great -- without Dana online WOULD NOT HAVE helped
49:00 Without self-esteem you canNOT build
51:00 Self worth without net worth
52:00 Be resourceful
53:00 This is how to live life worth living
54:00 We need more - see something, say something
55:00 Directing and producing the shit show
56:00 Projecting ones victims onto society
Producing big screen shit show
57:00 You don't get to this level of violence without victimhood
58:00 I always felt bad when I scared people
59:00 I was so calloused
01:00:00 My game was sweetness
01:01:00 Callousness born out of mistreatment
Nick and Nate Diaz channel inner rage
01:02:00 Kids: you gotta channel or develop that
01:03:00 School doesn't have time for needed check-ins
01:04:00 My point is - in every example there is a mission that doesn't afford time to listen
01:06:00 Group therapy IS possible
01:07:00 Stored emotions
01:08:00 Damn levy is overflowing
01:09:00 Integrity: Know when I've had enough
01:10:00 Psychology and Science - my opinion
01:11:00 Psychology not just philosophy
01:12:00 Tucker Carlson - media - get people on who can PREscribe WHAT TO DO.
01:13:00 Your Work
01:14:00 Man walking toward the Sun illustration - metaphor
01:16:00 How many people are in the dark? Millions
01:17:00 There's no book on parenting. Yes. It's called THERAPY.
01:18:00 Dr. Alice Miller "For Your Own Good" 2nd book
01:19:00 The pain that parents felt
01:20:00 Check-in

Sources:
John Gottman
@hn_Gottman
Alice Miller
Book:
@ice_Miller_(psychologist)
@r-Own-Good-Alice-Miller-audiobook/dp/B0723B6ZTW/ref=sr_1_1
Wiki page:
@ice_Miller_(psychologist)