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When To Date Exclusively - When does a relationship become exclusive?
By: Carlos Cavallo

One of the most important milestones in a relationship is when you become exclusive. It's also one of the most anxious times for women because she's waiting for weeks or even months to figure out “Where is this going?" So let's talk about exclusive relationships, and when does a relationship become exclusive?

In many surveys, when American couples are asked about when they think you should become exclusive, they typically say around the 3-month mark.

Are they right? or is that too soon to be exclusive?

Maybe too late?

If you see each other once a week, that would be around 12 dates. Maybe as many as 24 or if you see each other a lot. But if you're seeing each other a lot, that kind of implies that you are exclusive already.

The truth is, each person is going to have their own particular time frame and deadline. And there are a lot of variables to this equation. There is no perfect formula for figuring this out.

You might run into your soulmate, and want to to speed things up. Or you might run into a guy you’re just not sure about and you want to take a little extra time with him.

Let's talk about the different factors that might come up that make you think about going exclusive earlier vs later.

Making Things Exclusive Tip 1: You may never know…
Some couples never really officially make things exclusive. They don't always have The Talk to establish the formal start of The Relationship.

Sometimes things seem to just go in the right direction with autopilot, and you don't need to push it.

This can be a really good sign when neither of you really thinks about it much. That means you are just spending your time enjoying the relationship instead of worrying about the formalizing and going exclusive.

Tip 2: It's usually your radar
Your inner feelings about the relationship typically make this an issue or not.

Let's be honest:

Making your dating exclusive is really a factor of of how anxious you feel about losing him.
If you've been dating him for a few weeks and he seems like a really good catch, but seems a bit aloof, you're going to be worrying about losing him. You could wind up pretty agitated until you can nail things down.

On the other hand, if he just plows forward, you won't really think about the "exclusive" part.

Tip 3 : Does anything really change?
If you think about it, what is supposed to change when your relationship becomes exclusive? For most people this means you stop dating other people.

Yes, hopefully this means you no longer have to lie awake wondering if he's out on a date with another woman.

It's not like anything formal actually changes between you. After all, there are no written contracts. You're just trying to get to a place where you can relax in the relationship.

If you're trying to get exclusive with your man, think about whether or not you need to press the subject. Do you really need to corner him and make him sign a document? Maybe take a test and and pledge his undying loyalty?

Be careful about formalizing the arrangement at the expense of the natural flow. Sometimes it's better to wait a little longer and let things run their course naturally.

Tip 4 : You could spook him
Guys are notoriously skittish when it comes to having a talk about your relationship status. If you try to get him to go exclusive before he is ready, you might send him running to the Hills.

However, if a guy is really into you, he's going to naturally stop seeing other women. Guys don't want to date multiple women unless he doesn't see potential - or he's is just a player.

And the truth is that "players" only make up less than 10% of all men. Those guys that gave you a vibe of being “pickup artists” were simply trying to get out of the relationship.

Guys are much more relaxed about making things exclusive. So that does mean you could potentially frighten him by bringing it up too early.

Tip 5 : Most men don't ...

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