Breakups: Why Begging Is Useless

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Why begging and pleading with your ex to give your relationship another chance after they have dumped you and unilaterally decided to end your relationship is useless, pointless and only leads to them losing respect for you. What you should do instead.

In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss an email from a viewer who was with his ex girlfriend for two and a half years. He says at first things were going really well due to the fact that he just didn’t care too much back then. Later, he became attached to her. Over time she became moody and grumpy which he says caused his interest to drift because they were arguing so much. One night he was out with some friends and he ran into a woman whom he used to hook up with. She tried to seduce him all night. Eventually, he got really drunk and went home with her, but nothing happened because they both passed out. He then realized the next day that he needed to end things with his girlfriend because he was so unhappy. When he broke up with her, she begged and pleaded with him to give their relationship another chance. He felt bad and decided to give her another chance. She later found out a few months later that he almost cheated, but was able to talk her into staying. A few months after that happened she left him and moved home to live with her mother. He begged and pleaded with her to the point that she blocked his number and blocked him from all social media since he was stalking her online also. Now he says he thinks they are meant to be and asks what he can do to get her back.

“What is a relationship? It’s two people who get up every day and mutually choose to continue being together. When two people value their connection and what they have, they will both work to meet each other’s needs on a continuous basis. If one of the people in the relationship unilaterally decides it’s not worth it, they no longer enjoy being in the relationship or they feel they don’t want to be in the relationship anymore, it is best if the other person lets them go with the understanding that they are letting them go, but that they want to work things out. It takes two people who want to be together in order for a relationship to be possible. Reconciliation is only possible when the person who unilaterally left, decides and realizes of their own free will and choice, that their life is far richer and better with the other person in it. Begging and pleading for them to change their mind only causes a loss of respect, delays any possible reconciliation and if the begging and pleading does not stop, this will permanently prevent any chance of getting back together again.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne

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