Relationships: Don't Hold Back

Why it’s not a good idea to hold back contact, texting, affection, sex, etc., in dating and what it means when you are dating someone who does this and what you should do about it.

In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss an email from a female viewer who is a successful high school principal. She has been following my work for the past year to help her meet men who she is compatible with. Recently she started dating a man who is older and not that attractive physically, but his confidence and how he handles himself make him more attractive in her eyes. They’ve had five dates so far, but now he has backed off and is only seeing her once per week. She is pissed off about this and wonders what she should do since she says she would have been sleeping with him by now if he had not done this. Why? She is convinced that he is following my work also. The reality is that she is holding back, not acting natural and purposefully not texting or calling him in-between dates even though she wants to because she is trying to manipulate him into acting the way she wants. She also is spoon-feeding her fifteen-year-old son parts of my book that deal with confidence and communication, but keeps everything else from him. It’s obvious she is controlling and manipulative with men to the point she is screwing things up unknowingly with her new guy who is treating her the way he should be. This is also handicapping her son’s ability to be successful in his dating life at an age that he could really use the knowledge in my book, instead of failing and having awkward experiences unnecessarily. She is robbing herself, her son and her potential new man of great memories and experiences that will last a lifetime.

“The love that you withhold is the pain that you carry. Love is about giving. Love is not conditional. Love is not about horse-trading; I will give you this if you do that for me, etc. Love is not attached to any outcome. When your heart is open and you give freely without attachments, you will attract both takers and givers. When you give to a giver, the giver will give back; you should keep giving to them and keep them in your life. When you give to a taker, the taker just takes and gives very little in return; delete the takers from your life permanently. Loving yourself does not mean you give without reciprocation, it just means that you will only continually give to people who give back.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne

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From my heart to yours,

Corey Wayne