Control Leads To Chaos

Why being controlling, manipulative and generally trying to impose your unreasonable expectations onto your lover in order to change them into the way you think they should be, will always lead to chaos, resentment, drama and loss of attraction.

In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss an email from a viewer who was introduced to my work through a colleague of his. He says it helped him to understand why things never worked out with his ex. He met a Russian woman online in September of last year. They met in person a week later. They became friends after hanging out for several months. Then he professed his feelings for her and things changed. She invited him over to her place and they started making love on a regular basis. He started going through her phone and discovered that she was keeping in touch with other guys. He confronted her about this and it led to an argument. He started trying to impose his will upon her and trying to change her into what he thought she should be. Now he is stuck in friends zone once again, and he’s in a perpetual mode of pursuit, which is going nowhere. He asks me what he can do to rekindle their romance since she never makes any effort to see him.

“Everyone comes into your life for a reason. You have a gift for them and they have a gift for you. However, people are not sent into your life for you to change or mold them into what you think they should be, but to be loved and appreciated for who they really are. It’s a reasonable request to ask others to treat you a certain way, and then give them the freedom to treat you the way you want, but it’s an unreasonable request to expect them to change their nature or who they are so you don’t feel insecure about yourself, or so you can feel validated. Everyone resents having their freedom restricted, being told what they can and can’t be, people trying to place limits on their potential and being expected to become something they are not and have no desire to become. Instead of trying to change others into the perfect person you want, instead focus on becoming the type of person you want to attract, and do not settle or stop searching until you find someone who already is exactly what you are looking for.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne

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From my heart to yours,

Corey Wayne