My experience with the 12 step program - Trinity On Fire

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#observationwithoutjudgement
#noshamenopraise

observation without judgement:
"A very accessible way to unlearn anything is to question it without accepting an answer. Most thoughts rest upon a foundation of assumptions. If you pick those assumptions apart, the thoughts which balance atop them collapse and create space for something new.

In the case of behaviour, it's beneficial to refrain from trying to force a change, as this normally just temporarily suppresses it. Instead, allow the behaviour to continue without judgement and observe it with a curious attitude as if you were studying a field of great interest. Question it with this attitude every time it comes around and before long the behaviour will make such little sense that the driving force behind it will dissipate.

Inner inquiry, with the right attitude, is rightly a destructive process, whereas the majority of our thinking is constructive and builds over time. If you can approach your thoughts or behaviours and question them without an agenda, it's like throwing it all into a distillery which burns away everything that's no longer well suited to you."