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We discuss the news that White Ribbon Australia founder and TV personality Andrew O'Keefe, an aggressive male feminist and misandrist who has worked to discredit men's issues advocates for years, has been charged with domestic violence. News item on O’Keefe charge: https://7news.com.au/news/court-justice/tv-host-andrew-okeefe-charged-with-domestic-assault-c-2065612 Andrew O’Keefe talking about White Ribbon Day: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p5ydxBYaGB8 Andrew O’Keefe interviewing Paul Elam: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dxcXldIFsbQ Andrew O’Keefe interviewing Cassie Jaye: Australia's 'Weekend Sunrise' hates a movie they haven't seen (The Red Pill) - YouTube Andrew O’Keefe on “Why We Need White Ribbon”: https://www.mamamia.com.au/andrew-okeefe-on-domestic-violence/ Statement on Instagram by White Ribbon Australia about charge against O’Keefe: https://www.instagram.com/p/CKtEnfzHr-L/?igshid=31zr7izdl6ap ✨PATREON https://www.patreon.com/PaulElam ✨SUBSCRIBE-STAR https://www.subscribestar.com/paul-elam OR YOU CAN DONATE/SUBSCRIBE https://www.paulelam.com/donate/ BITCOIN WALLET 3BfqbqW4fDv8tVWPqHhcynHf6yVDjNLPcG 👍👍👍GET MY BOOK "MEN. WOMEN. RELATIONSHIPS" ON AMAZON https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07S6L199R SIGN UP FOR THE REGARDING MEN MAIL LIST https://regardingmen.com/ For personal consultation, book with Paul here: https://www.paulelam.com/booking-new-client-questionnaire/ My Website https://www.paulelam.com/

James Nuzzo on Twitter https://twitter.com/jameslnuzzo?lang=en James Nuzzo Website https://www.jameslnuzzo.com/ Issue on Masculinity https://www.pjp.psychreg.org/december-2020/ James Nuzzo on the UN & WHO https://www.pjp.psychreg.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/12/nuzzo-120-150.pdf

Paul, Tom, and Janice discuss a New York Times article about widows of COVID-19, noticing its determination to view the deaths of men through a gynocentric lens. Everything is about the suffering of women, even men's deaths. Then we acknowledge the remarkable work of Mark Perry on gender reality, looking at two charts about the gender gap in occupational fatalities, something that occurs year after year with almost zero public notice. NY Times Article https://www.nytimes.com/2020/12/31/us/covid-widows-deaths.html?smid=fb-nytimes&smtyp=cur&fbclid=IwAR0jevioPHKN5tgCZ5nL_GyRf6UZVgPuC2pi6_5OTQu7PnROhTvTEbhzrg4 AEI Charts https://www.aei.org/carpe-diem/wednesday-evening-links-all-chart-edition/ Equality, A Step Down for Women https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=icV-V73ZjRI

Tom, Paul, and Janice discuss "Falling Down," a 1993 movie starring Michael Douglas and Robert Duvall as blue pill men confronting the nothingness of their lives. Spoiler alert: we give away most of the plot, but it's still worth watching anyway. ✨PATREON https://www.patreon.com/PaulElam ✨SUBSCRIBE-STAR https://www.subscribestar.com/paul-elam OR YOU CAN DONATE/SUBSCRIBE https://www.paulelam.com/donate/ BITCOIN WALLET 3BfqbqW4fDv8tVWPqHhcynHf6yVDjNLPcG 👍👍👍GET MY BOOK "MEN. WOMEN. RELATIONSHIPS" ON AMAZON https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07S6L199R SIGN UP FOR THE REGARDING MEN MAIL LIST https://regardingmen.com/ For personal consultation, book with Paul here: https://www.paulelam.com/booking-new-client-questionnaire/ My Website https://www.paulelam.com/ GAB https://gab.com/Elam MEWE https://mewe.com/i/paulelam1 Say Goodbye to Crazy http://www.amazon.com/Say-Goodbye-Crazy-Restore-Sanity-ebook/dp/B014W0587S?ie=UTF8&*Version*=1&*entries*=0

We look at a UN Women's vision for the future called 'Equiterra,' an imaginary country that has 'achieved gender equality.' What that means is that women and girls are encouraged, comforted, promoted, and blessed with all things good, while men are ignored and marginalized. Paul, Tom, and Janice contrast this asinine vision with the reality of men's work-related peril, as demonstrated in a goldmine disaster recently reported on in China. Glen Poole link on the empathy gap: http://www.inside-man.co.uk/2015/07/24/nine-out-of-ten-victims-of-police-related-deaths-are-male-who-cares/

Paul, Tom, and Janice discuss a recent triple homicide-suicide in Australia, in which a mother killed her three young children and herself. The gendered double standards of the mainstream media are on full display. Links: Boston Mother Who Murdered Her Two Children by Throwing Them Off Parking Garage. https://www.nbcnews.com/news/us-news/mom-her-two-young-children-die-fall-boston-parking-garage-n1107416 Father Who Burned Family to Death https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-8020641/Brisbane-murder-suicide-Father-sets-wife-kids-fire-car-begs-people-not-save-them.html Main Story https://www.abc.net.au/news/2021-01-14/police-at-tullamarine-home-melbourne-four-bodies-found/13057910 https://www.reddit.com/r/melbourne/comments/kxn66a/incredibly_heartwrenching_father_released_without/ https://www.news.com.au/national/victoria/crime/tullamarine-murdersuicide-katie-perinovics-final-months-before-child-murders/news-story/53817f7104d2069ed7262a3087ad7235 Join us at Regarding Men! https://regardingmen.com/join/

Tom, Paul, and Janice interview the great Warren Farrell about 'the Boy Crisis,' why it matters, and what we can do to address it. Get The Boy Crisis https://www.amazon.com/Boy-Crisis-Boys-Struggling-About/dp/1948836130/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1SWG73D61IGMF&dchild=1&keywords=the+boy+crisis&qid=1611008581&sprefix=the+boy+cr%2Caps%2C162&sr=8-1 Join us at Regarding Men https://regardingmen.com/

The President-Elect of Division 51 of the American Psychological Association sent Paul an email asking why we'd made a video titled "Why Men Can't Trust Psychotherapy." We thought it worth talking more about the powerful Division 51 and its approach to what it considers "the psychological study of men and masculinities." Murray Strauss Paper on Lying Feminists https://avoiceformen.com/featured/how-feminists-corrupt-dv-research/ APA Guidelines on Men and Masculinity https://www.apa.org/about/policy/boys-men-practice-guidelines.pdf Mascupathy https://menscenter.org/product/mascupathy/ Jordan Peterson Destroys Division 51 https://www.jordanbpeterson.com/political-correctness/comment-on-the-apa-guidelines-for-the-treatment-of-boys-and-men/

Adam Ragusea, a popular food YouTuber, recently answered a question about why there aren't more prominent female chefs on YouTube. His answer was textbook feminism (too many entitled men taking up space), so Tom, Paul, and Janice thought it worth discussing. Our conclusion: Adam should stick to questions about cooking.

An overview of men's issues.

"The Tendency for Interpersonal Victimhood: The Personality Construct and its Consequences" Quotations: In the present research, we introduce a conceptualization of the Tendency for Interpersonal Victimhood (TIV), which we define as an enduring feeling that the self is a victim across different kinds of interpersonal relationships. [….] We establish the construct of TIV, with its four dimensions; i.e., need for recognition, moral elitism, lack of empathy, and rumination, and then assess TIV’s internal consistency, stability over time, and its effect on the interpretation of ambiguous situations. (p. 2) Need for recognition refers to victims' motivation to have their victimhood acknowledged and empathized with (Twali, Hameiri, Vollhardt, & Nadler, 2020). (p. 3) Moral elitism refers to the perception of immaculate morality of the self and the immorality of the other side. […] At the individual level, moral elitism may be used to control others by accusing them of immoral, unfair or selfish behavior, while seeing oneself as highly moral and ethical (Urlic et al. , 2010. Similarly, collective victimhood is based on beliefs about the justness of one’s group's goals and positive image, while emphasizing the wickedness of the opponent’s goals and characteristics. (p. 3) Lack of empathy refers to an oblivious reaction to others in general and to their suffering in particular. […] Empirically, victimhood was found to increase the sense of entitlement to behave aggressively and selfishly (Zitek, Jordan, Monin, & Leach, 2010). Similarly, groups that engage in competitive victimhood tend to see their victimization as exclusive, thus minimizing or outright denying their adversary’s suffering (Noor et al., 2012). (p. 4) Finally, Rumination refers to a focus of attention on the symptoms of one's distress, and its possible causes and consequences rather than its possible solutions (Nolen-Hoeksema, Wisko, & Lyubomirsky, 2008). (p. 5) It should be noted that both on the individual and the intergroup levels, victimhood is not necessarily consecutive to a past victimization or trauma (Berman, 2014b; Schori-Eyal et al., 2017). (p. 5) Finally, another intriguing path for future investigation is what happens to high-TIV individuals when they are in power or leadership positions. Ample research has indicated that the powerful are more likely to behaviorally pursue their values and goals (for a review see Guinote, 2017). Future studies could directly investigate whether high-TIV powerholders feel less inhibited to express hurtful feelings and behave in a vindictive way. (p. 31)

Paul, Tom, and Janice discuss the Netflix mini-series "The Queen's Gambit," which tells the story of Beth Harmon, female chess prodigy, as she develops her talents and eventually defeats the #1 Russian player. This is a blue pill movie that gives men their marching orders: your role is to mentor girls, to support their endeavors, and to cheerlead them to victory. Don't think about competing. Join us at https://regardingmen.com/join/