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CONTEMPT PRIOR TO INVESTIGATION: Stop it. Be Open to options without prejudice or bias. Investigate what something is about before rejecting it out of hand. Best that we look at the data.

Most of you accuse people of things that you yourself do. You have a blind spot regarding your own foibles, but have no problem zeroing in on those very same issues in others, usually with harsh judgment, intolerance and often times rage. This is obviously a mistake. We should not be judging other people who are doing things that we ourselves do. We must hold a mirror up to ourselves and maintain integrity and consistency.

It is fear that makes us judge people harshly. Fear that they will hurt us if we misinterpret their intentions. Consequently, we go overboard in assessing threat in others.

Replace negative thinking with POSITIVE THINKING. Count your blessings. Look for silver linings. Be grateful. Be compassionate. Be forgiving.

Complaining about everything under the sun, tossing emotional hand grenades at people and filling your spare time with mindless, incessant verbal vomiting of your life's problems and inequities is not helpful. Taking action against things that you feel are unfair is helpful. Changing things you can change is helpful. Accepting what you can't change is extremely helpful. Finding joy and satisfaction in life despite what you don't have is the way to go. Count your blessings. Enjoy being alive. It's not going to last as long as you would like.

We procrastinate for fear that something will be too difficult for us to do or that the result will be too difficult for us to deal with. But the point is, we can't run away from reality. We have responsibilities and it's always wise to deal with something at the time, nip it in the bud, rather than wait until it turns into a major crisis or catastrophe. Make the decision to do it now and get it out of the way, and feel good about yourself for having done so.

Be interested in who they are and not what they can do for you. Be generous. Be accepting. Be compassionate. Be of service to others. Be the GOLDEN RULE

We see this on the world stage. We see this in our politicians and pundits. We see this in our everyday life. And then we wonder why we all can't get along. We wonder why there is so much violence. Why so many people are shooting each other. Get your own house in order. Stop attacking others you disagree with. Find a way to make your position clear in a non-violent, non-aggressive way.

We are judging everything way too much. We are on automatic pilot. If our feelings are hurt in some way, we judge the other person responsible, and also assign intention to that person. He/she meant to hurt us. We assume our feelings are facts, and then we act out instantly, lashing out emotionally, verbally, physically, in all sorts of maladaptive and dysfunctional ways which are usually not the best choices when looking back on the situation later. Stop with the knee-jerk judgments. Listen with an open mind. Think. Use logic and then hopefully you will come to peace within yourself and the appropriate measured response will occur to you.

The Durham report is funnier than the Libs of TikTok. Bottom line: The FBI and JUSTICE DEPARTMENT didn't follow the law but, hey, nobody's perfect! Outrageous! Without consequences, nothing will change.

Few elected officials admit when they are wrong or have made a mistake. They prefer blaming someone or something else and not taking responsibility. And we are guilty of doing the same thing. Nothing gets better until WE CHOOSE TO BE BETTER

Most people resist criticism because of ego and because of the implications that it means your product isn't good enough and therefore you aren't good enough. There is another way to look at it. See criticism as a stepping stone to success. You use it to transform your product, to make it better, to make it more marketable and accessible to your audience, whatever that product might be related to, such as health, career, wealth, relationships, etc. Keep an open mind. And embrace criticism. And watch your world get better.

Our POLITICAL PROCESS IS CORRUPT. Both sides lie. We end up being the pawns of their struggle for power. It has to stop. But it's only going to stop when you and I are honest and honorable in all we do. By being role models of right action, we can change the world.

Instead of rushing to judgment and assuming that he's innocent or guilty, we should wait for a court of law to make that determination. It is dangerous and reckless to shoot first and then ask questions. The same is true in our personal relationships. We tend to make assumptions before gathering all the data. We presume to know the intentions of other people without asking them first and looking at the facts. Big mistake. It leads to impulsive reckless actions. Don't do that.

People upset Trump given a platform by CNN to spew his lies. Same people not upset every day the mainstream media overlooks the lies of Joe Biden. So hypocritical. When will people champion Truth and deplore lies where ever they uncover them?

SCOTT BAIO leaving California. FOCUS your opinions on the problems he raised rather than the contents of his character and career. If you don't, then you are using your judgments to distract yourself and others from addressing solutions to those problems. It can also be viewed as a form of self-censorship because by "shooting the messenger" you close your mind to the idea of challenging your feelings and beliefs. Introspection is always an asset.

Did you hear the rumor I made up that Joe Rogan will be moderating 3 debates on CNN for Democrats meeting min. requirements?