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Overthinking: 7 Things Overthinkers Do And 10 Signs of Overthinking In this video we've put together an objective list designed to give you perspective on your own thoughts. Here's a list of seven things that over-thinkers can relate to: 1) Over-thinkers apologize too much. 2) Over-thinkers relive embarrassing past experiences in their heads. 3) Over-thinkers appear more insecure than they really are. 4) Over-thinkers have problems sleeping. 5) Over-thinkers worry about making others happy. 6) Over-thinkers always need a second opinion. 7) Over-thinkers spend time worrying about things they have no control over. When you've got something big on your mind. being called an overthinker makes you feel invalidated frustrated and disappointed in yourself. But how do you know whether or not you are overthinking? With these 10 signs you can figure out whether you might be overthinking or not. ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------- There are many different kinds of cheeses! You walk into any given grocery store, and there it is! The long, daunting shelf of cheeses. There's orange cheddar, white cheddar, mozzarella, parmesan, provolone, Colby-Jack, and the list goes on. All you need is cheese for tonight's dinner, but this is turning out to be the hardest decision of your life. If you can relate to this, or a situation less ridiculous but similar to this, you're probably an over-thinker. Many of us are guilty of being over thinkers, and there's nothing wrong with that. But here's a list of seven things that over-thinkers can relate to: 1) Over-thinkers apologize too much Before you're even sure if something is your fault, you're already apologizing for it. This leaves you feeling vulnerable and exposed to more trouble. Like for example, taking the blame for every situation may cause others to take advantage of you. Over-thinkers tend to want to smooth over the rough patches, but sometimes it can cause more trouble than it's worth. 2) Over-thinkers relive embarrassing past experiences in their heads You tend to repeatedly relive the moments you are less proud of in your mind. For example: Imagine that you're having a perfectly normal day. Then your brain decides to remind you of that one time in middle school when you ripped your pants in gym class. And just like that, your whole day is ruined. You tend to relive these past experiences and imagine how it could have gone differently. 3) Over-thinkers appear more insecure than they really are Because of your indecisive nature, it may cause others to view you as unsure of yourself or under-confident This becomes apparent in working situations, because you take too long to make decisions for clients or projects. 4) Over-thinkers have problems sleeping When you lay down at night, your brain starts to process all of the information you learned from that day. If you're a natural over-thinker, your brain goes haywire at night trying to organize all the thoughts that you're having. You may lay down in your bed at 9:30 p.m, only to find yourself wide awake at 1:00 a.m, forming a plan of how you're finally gonna start going to the gym on a regular basis. A study published in May 2003 states that there is a direct link between rumination, or overthinking, and negative emotions and thoughts. Sleep quality and depressive and irritated moods go hand-in-hand. 5) Over-thinkers worry about making others happy You often disregard your own desires for the sole purpose of satisfying someone else. You may repress your own opinion, so as not to contradict someone else. You constantly make decisions based on how other people would react to them, rather than what is best for you. 6) Over-thinkers always need a second opinion It's hard for you to make a decision on your own. You may spend hours in the department store, because you're taking pictures of every outfit and sending it to all your friends for their input. It may be difficult for you to make even simple decisions without consulting an outside source. 7) Over-thinkers spend time worrying about things they have no control over Whether you like it or not, there are always going to be things in the world that you have no control over. In fact, most things fall into that category. If you're an over-thinker, you tend to lose sleep over things that are completely and utterly uninfluenced by you. It's okay to accept that some things are out of your reach. Sometimes over-thinkers make their lives more difficult than they have to be. A study published in September 2008 titled Rethinking rumination, states that there is a strong relationship between overthinking and mental illness. Based on a person's proneness to overthink, you may be able to predict the likelihood of that person being depressed or having anxiety. Being an over-thinker can make you good at critical thinking, as well as sympathetic to others and their problems. But there are many options out there to help stop you from overthinking your whole life, if you feel that it's a problem. Try to put things in a perspective! Do some meditation or deep breathing! Stop trying to make everything perfect, because that more than likely is never gonna happen! If you're an over-thinker, try overthinking the good things in your life, rather than the bad! When you've got something big on your mind being called an overthinker makes you feel invalidated frustrated and disappointed in yourself but how do you know whether or not you are overthinking in this video we've put together an objective list designed to give you perspective on your own thoughts with these 10 signs you can figure out whether you might be overthinking or not one you have stressful daydreams do you daydream about the future everyone daydreams from time to time you dream about succeeding in your career meeting your soulmate or living the lifestyle you've always imagined these healthy daydreams feel happy and uplifting but overthinkers daydream in a different way instead of looking fondly into the future overthinkers imagine every way something could go wrong their negative daydreams create all kinds of unnecessary stress in other words they worry about the future way before it actually happens if you're imagining all the ways your dreams could go wrong you may be overthinking two you feel vulnerable overthinking places you in a vulnerable state of mind you're trying to solve your problems but it feels like you're not making any progress you feel angry and helpless which tanks your mood and brings deep insecurities to the surface in moments like these people may overreact to small problems or get defensive when loved ones offer a helping hand if you're feeling especially vulnerable you may be overthinking so step back and take a breath then you may realize things aren't as bad as they seem three you're indecisive have you gone back and forth 20 times on the same decision overthinking ruins your ability to make firm decisive choices when all the options are swirling through your head it feels like there's no right answer like every solution is just another dead end if you're stuck wondering what path to follow you may be overthinking or you can't concentrate most people overthink when trying to solve a problem in their life but overthinking actually hurts your concentration a 2003 study by jambo merski and others found that overthinking also known as rumination damages your ability to focus when you're overthinking your brain gets cluttered and distracted so you stop making progress you stop moving forward if you're spending all your time thinking and none of your time doing you're probably overthinking 5. you're constantly anxious how often do you feel anxious hundreds of studies have discovered links between overthinking also known as rumination and anxiety when you feel insecure or doubtful about something your anxiety stimulates nervous unhelpful thoughts not only do these thoughts cloud your judgment they also create even more anxiety in other words anxiety and rumination feed off each other while heavily impacting your mood and motivation a book by nolan huxma explains that ruminators have significantly more anxiety than the average person so if your thoughts are making you anxious you may be thinking too much 6. your bad mood won't go away have you been in a bad mood all week according to a 2000 study by davis and nolan people who ruminate experience longer more intense periods of negativity they find themselves stuck in a rut for days or weeks on end the problem is people cope with negativity by overthinking but overthinking only worsens your state of mind if your bad mood just won't go away you may be overthinking 7. you avoid things you like when you're overthinking your thoughts take over your life it may feel like you can't do anything but focus on these unsolvable problems even your favorite activities start to lose their spark a 1993 study by leon bumarski and nolan found that people avoid their hobbies when they're overthinking whether you like to write paint or exercise your passion begins to dwindle because your mind is clouded by doubt and anxiety if you're thinking so much that you start to avoid your favorite activities you might be overthinking eight you reinterpret old memories are you revisiting old memories are you rethinking the past wondering what went wrong this is a very common sign of overthinking a 2006 study by star and molds found that ruminators especially those struggling with anxiety and depression replay past events in their heads if you're revisiting embarrassing moments and missed opportunities and you're probably overthinking nine you want a deeper reason are you searching for some deeper understanding of yourself the same 1993 study by leon bamarski and nolan found that ruminators search for a deeper meaning that doesn't exist you're looking for some grand resolution to your problems something to lift your mood and relieve your anxiety but the problem is usually your own train of thought and 10. you've experienced this before if you're overthinking now you've probably done it before the same 2000 study by davis and nolan found that overthinkers ruminate over and over and over again each time you run into a problem mental or physical you may overthink and drive your mood into the ground so think back on the last time you felt the way you do now was it yesterday the week before how often do you worry that you're overthinking if this is something you've experienced on a regular basis you might be overthinking now too do you relate to any of these signs have you ever caught yourself overthinking how did you know tell us about your experiences in the comments section below if you have someone in your life who's overthinking and you want to be there for them offer them a hug or a shoulder to cry on help them see that there is hope and that things will get better let them know you care about them and that they're not alone in this you might not completely understand or know what to say but it'll mean a lot to them if you show them that they're not alone and that you truly do care and if you know someone who may benefit from online counseling we actually partnered up with better help an affordable online counseling platform that 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