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In this episode, Tee shares her experience of growing up in domestic violence and the aftermath of abuse. She discusses the challenges of living in a constant state of fear and hypervigilance, as well as the impact it had on her mental health. Tee also talks about the importance of seeking help and finding validation for her trauma. She emphasizes the need to break the cycle of abuse and learn to love and accept oneself. Through her journey, Tee has gained insight and understanding into her own story and hopes to inspire others to do the same. In this part of the conversation, Heather and TheAfterMath discuss struggles with accepting compliments and gifts, the journey to finding self-worth, using fashion as a mask, breaking the cycle of abuse with children, building a community and speaking out, connecting to the pain of others, teleporting into the stories of others, the power of sharing personal stories, the cycle of abuse continuing, different perspectives and memories, and navigating family relationships. In this conversation, TheAfterMath and Heather discuss the challenges of dealing with family reactions to abuse and trauma. They explore the impact of trauma on relationships and the importance of sharing stories to create understanding and support. They also discuss the struggle of reconciling the fairy tale dream with the reality of abuse and the difficulties that arise during family gatherings. The conversation highlights the power of validation and the creation of a supportive community through social media. TheAfterMath shares her future plans to continue sharing her story and creating a platform for others to connect and heal. Takeaways Growing up in domestic violence can have long-lasting effects on mental health and well-being. Living in a constant state of fear and hypervigilance can lead to anxiety and irrational fears. Seeking help and finding validation for one's trauma is crucial for healing and breaking the cycle of abuse. Acceptance and self-validation are key in learning to love oneself and navigate triggers. Dealing with family reactions to abuse and trauma can be challenging, but it's important to remember that everyone has their own journey and perspective. Trauma can have a significant impact on relationships, causing individuals to feel isolated and disconnected from their loved ones. Sharing personal stories of abuse and trauma can create understanding and support, helping others to feel less alone. The aftermath of abuse can create a sense of longing for a fairy tale dream, but it's important to accept the reality and find healing in the present. Family gatherings can be difficult for survivors of abuse, as triggers and individual trauma can create tension and conflict. Creating a supportive community through social media can provide validation and healing for survivors of abuse and trauma. Flipping negativity and focusing on positive aspects can help survivors find strength and move forward in their healing journey. https://www.youtube.com/@TheAfterMath83

Summary Dr. Jody Carrington discusses the importance of connection and emotional regulation in relationships. She explains that humans are neurobiologically wired for connection, but the hardest thing we will ever do is connect with each other. The increase in disconnection and loneliness in today's society has led to a mental health crisis. Dr. Carrington emphasizes the need to regulate emotions and stay connected to others in order to access the best parts of ourselves. She also discusses the impact of trauma on emotional regulation and the tendency to numb emotions. The conversation explores the challenges of parenting in the digital age and the importance of staying emotionally regulated to connect with the next generation. The conversation explores the importance of human connection and the impact of technology on our relationships. It emphasizes the need for authentic interaction and the detrimental effects of constant connectivity. The discussion also touches on the significance of feeling seen and understood, as well as the importance of emotional regulation and self-acceptance. The conversation concludes with the reminder to be kind and not tolerate bullshit. Takeaways Humans are neurobiologically wired for connection, but connecting with others is the hardest thing we will ever do. The increase in disconnection and loneliness has led to a mental health crisis. Emotional regulation is crucial for staying connected and accessing the best parts of ourselves. Trauma can impact emotional regulation and lead to numbing behaviors. Parenting in the digital age requires understanding and staying emotionally regulated to connect with the next generation. Human beings are meant to be in packs and thrive on connection. Technology can be both helpful and harmful to our relationships. Authentic interaction is essential and cannot be replicated through technology. Feeling seen and understood is crucial for emotional well-being. Emotional regulation and self-acceptance are key to finding joy and purpose. Kindness and setting boundaries are important for maintaining healthy relationships. Body dysmorphia can be a result of a disconnect between the head and the heart. Affirmations need to be accompanied by a state of regulation to be effective. Dr. Jody Carrington Bio Renowned Psychologist. Human Connection Expert. Bestselling Author Dr. Jody Carrington is a powerhouse speaker and fearless champion for authentic human connection. She is highly sought after for her expertise, energy, and genuine approach to helping people solve the most complex human-centered problems. Jody’s work focuses on the value of reconnection—the key to healthy relationships and productive teams. Her authentic, honest (and often hilarious) approach never fails to inspire and motivate audiences. Dr. Carrington is the founder and principal psychologist at The Carrington Practice, where she uses her twenty-plus years of experience to empower the clients she connects with. Jody’s unique resume of clients—from kids to major institutions—provides her with insights and depth of experience to present unmatched value to her audiences. Her core message resonates with everyone from the practice to the world stage: our power lies in our ability to acknowledge each other first. She is the bestselling author of Kids These Days (2019), Teachers These Days (2021), and the emotionally charged and introspective chart topping, Feeling Seen (Harper Collins, 2023). Jody lives in small-town Olds, Alberta, with her husband and three children (she had three kids in 2 years to test her own resilience) and leads the amazing team at Carrington & Company. https://www.drjodycarrington.com/