Processing Trauma Related TRIGGERS Through Compassionate Grace

What if the triggers you're trying so hard to get away from or avoid are actually doorways to some of the deepest healing you'll ever experience? Most of us have been taught to see triggers as the enemy—something to suppress, avoid, get away from or even pray away as quickly as possible.

The problem is, we keep bumping up against them! And when we get triggered, we often turn that pain inward: What's wrong with me? Why can't I just get over this? Maybe I don't have enough faith.

But here's what I've learned, both in my own journey and in walking with countless others through theirs: triggers aren't evidence that something is wrong with you. They're signals. They're your nervous system saying, "There's something here that needs loving care. There's a wound that needs some nurture, some compassion, some grace and healing."

The problem isn't that we get triggered. The problem is that most of us were never taught how to respond to triggers in a way that leads to actual healing. Instead, we react—we fight, we flee, we freeze, we fawn—and then we shame ourselves for reacting. It becomes this exhausting cycle that keeps us stuck.

Today I want to offer you a different path. I call it the Compassionate Grace Response, and it's built on a simple framework: Pause, Process, Proceed. This isn't about white-knuckling your way through difficult emotions or pretending they don't exist. It's about learning to meet yourself with the same kindness and patience that God extends to you—and allowing that grace to transform how you relate to your own pain.

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