There Are Three Stages Of Love And Seven Chemicals That Make It Happen

CuriosityPublished: January 29, 201850 views
Published: January 29, 2018

Love is a beautiful, wonderful, magical thing, but what's the science behind it? The three stages of love are: lust, attraction, and attachment. In this video, Joanie Faletto from explains the science behind the chemicals in our body that make us fall for each other.

According to Helen Fisher, PhD Biological Anthropologist at Rutgers University and Chief Scientific Advisor to the Internet dating site,, there are three distinct stages of love: lust, attraction and attachment. During these stages there are seven chemicals that work inside your body.

Testosterone, the male hormone that makes you feel like you can take on the world and also gets you in the mood, and estrogen, the female hormone this neurotransmitter runs your engine. These two chemicals make up the first stage of love-lust!

Dopamine, the pleasure hormone which makes you feel happy and fun fact nicotine cocaine this chemical. Norepinephrine the fighter-flight chemical that gets your heart racing and makes you sweaty. It is the same thing as the adrenaline. Serotonin, the mood hormone. This brain chemical can throw off your mood literally give you a crazy in love feeling. These three chemicals give you the second stage of love-attraction.

Oxytocin, the bonding hormone that makes you feel comfortable with someone and makes you want to settle down, and Vasopressin the commitment hormone. This neurotransmitter keeps your eyes from wandering. These two neurotransmitters round up the final stage of love-attachment!

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