Are therapists paid to agree with you? Robin Newman, Imago therapist, Huntington Relationship Center

I often get the question if I ever 'agree' with my clients...

So, here's my answer to that:

I will always agree with blatant injustice. But, I feel that if I agree completely, I'm letting the person off the hook of looking at what their duplicity is. What they are doing to participate in the relationship / situation that they are in.

If I just agree, then how am I helping them to see and to prevent the next 'set up' because I always say to people that things come in different disguises.

So if I just agree with you saying he / she is a jackass, etc. and then you get into a new relationship with someone else and you're doing the same things again. How is that helping you?

I'm going to be more in the realm of saying, yeah, that wasn't such a great thing that he / she did to you, but what did you to participate? What patterns are you following / stuck in? What kinds of people are you choosing to surround yourself with to find yourself still getting into these situations?

ROBIN NEWMAN, LCSW-R, PC
Individual, Couples & Family Therapist

The Huntington Relationship & Therapy Center
148 East Main Street Huntington, NY 11743
(631) 421-4701

https://huntingtonrelationshiptherapy.com/

"My approach towards couples is oriented not only towards solving the problems the couple is facing, but to revive the feeling of love and affection they have towards each other."

ABOUT ROBIN NEWMAN:

I am a licensed clinical social worker, Imago relationship therapist, as well as an adjunct professor at the Graduate School of Social Work at Adelphi University. I'm a contributing therapist to Ladies Home Journal Magazine, "Can This Marriage Be Saved?" and the online magazine "Parenting Special Needs, Relationship Rescue".

I work with couples, families and individuals. I'm successful in guiding my patients through anxiety, depression, self-esteem challenges, addictions, and/or family conflicts.

The key for me is always in the patient who has the courage and openness to heal. We all have wounds that can hold us back from creating satisfying relationships. It is a privilege and a blessing to be invited into the lives of others and assist them in having a more productive and healed life.